.GOOD SEX
This is the concluding part of this article on 21 Foreplay Ideas & Tips You’ll Be Dying to Try. Enjoy it.
Sometimes the buildup is the best part.
Done right, the buildup to sex can be just as good as the main event—especially with these foreplay ideas.
Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or having first-time hookup, foreplay tends to get overlooked.
Part of the reason? It’s easy for foreplay tips to feel a little contrived: Start by making out, move on to some over-the-bra action, make your way below the belt.
But foreplay doesn’t have to be quite so paint-by-the-numbers. We asked sex therapists and experts to weigh in with their favorite foreplay ideas. You’re going to want to try them all the next time you get frisky.
15. Mime each other’s moves.
Sometimes we can learn a lot about how our partner likes to be touched and kissed by observing how they touch and kiss us. Paying close attention to and mimicking our partner’s moves is not only a fantastic round of foreplay, it can show you how to turn them on in the future. It’s as simple as it sounds: Sit, stand, or lie down facing each other. Then begin miming the other’s moves. If his or her hand reaches to slip your top off, you do the same to them. If your hand wanders down south and starts fondling your partner’s parts, they do the same to you. Try to stick with each other’s pace for as long as you can.
16. Play a kissing game.
Tell your partner to sit on the sofa or lie down on the bed. Kiss them—on the mouth, the cheeks, the forehead, the ears, the eyelids, the neck, hands, knees, you name it. Here’s the catch: Your partner has to stay totally still. They can’t move, or touch you, or try to kiss you back. When you’ve kissed your partner from head to toe, switch places. The buildup and anticipation will have you both dying to get intimate.
17. Be a tease.
Have your partner lie on their back and proceed to play a little game of “getting warmer.” Use your hands (or your mouth) to gently caress different parts of their body. You could start with random spots like the knees or forehead and then move to more erogenous zones. While you’re moving about, ask how your partner is handling the temperature. Keep “getting warmer” until they can’t take it anymore and then switch roles. By the time the game is over, you’ll both be on fire.
18. Practice your communication skills.
Since everyone has different turn-ons, the best thing you can do is pay attention to what works for you and then try to re-create it, says Winter. Don’t be afraid to let your partner know when they do something that you like. They’ll probably be happy to keep doing whatever gets you going in the future, and they’ll definitely appreciate the positive feedback. Next time you’re having a quiet moment with your partner, start a conversation about what he or she likes during foreplay. Chances are, just talking about it might lead to more.
19. Act like strangers.
This is the perfect way to switch things up with your partner and bring back those first-date butterflies, says Emily Morse, Ph.D., host of the SiriusXM Radio show and podcast Sex With Emily. Approach each other at your favorite bar (or a new one you’ve been meaning to try). Then come up with a fun back story, and chat each other up as if it’s the first time you’re meeting. “This is a chance to let go and act out a fantasy you’ve always wanted to try, or simply feel it out in the moment,” Morse says. “You get the thrill of a ‘one-night stand’ without the hassle, or infidelity.”
20. Make a “yes/no/maybe” list.
If you’re looking for ways to spice up your sex life, downloading a “yes/no/maybe” list from the internet is a great way for you and your partner get started. According to Morse, these lists can help you determine what you and your partner are willing to try in the bedroom, and include everything from BDSM to sex toys and nonmonogamy. Each person goes through the list and marks which items are a yes, a maybe, or a definite no. Review the lists together to see where you and your partner land. “Discussing this can be arousing, but also lead to learning even more about your partner, and exploring something new that you might have never considered before,” Morse says.
21. Sext.
Next time you’re on your way home, send a flirty text. If you haven’t sexted before, it can feel intimidating, so remember it’s all about what makes you feel sexy. Maybe that’s a photo, or a poem, or a description of what you’re going to do to your partner when you get home.
Good Night.
